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Twitchamoo · Help

I can't remember if i've asked about this before, but i never seem to get any really useful answers...

ok, so theres a girl in my class who i have had a crush on for around a year...
i can talk to her sometimes, but not much.

So basically, im scared to ask her out ( which i want to do).

this is because im in a weird situation...

the people in my class are very strange, and are very VERY on-off with me.

Sometimes everyone hates me, sometimes they dislike me, sometimes some people think im ok or like me, and sometimes everyone is ok with me.

What do i do????

also, i am VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY shy, which doesnt help.

Reaper

Think about it. Get her in private, and ask her honestly, if she says no, 1) Ask her not to say this to anyone else. 2) She isn't worth the bother, so don't get down about it.

Twitchamoo

but the thing is im too shy to ask her out anyway.

or to get her in private, plus she nearly always sticks with friends...

Reaper

This world doesn't supply for the weak 'foo! [/mrtmoment]
Anyway, she isn't glued to her friends, there will be one time you catch her alone.
If she is sad, comfort her, if not, just ask her. Don't be shy, as then you will get a definate no. being cool and relaxed, a chance of a yes.

Twitchamoo

you don't understand, i feel that i CAN'T.

even if i go to school with that intention, it isn't going to happen...

Reaper

Then why are you so worried about it, or asking for help? If you know you can't, no point trying... xD Logic rocks.

Hayley

Basically If You Feel You Can't, Gain Confidence First.

Instead Of Asking Her Out Straight Away Why Don't You Start Talking To Her. Become Better Friends Then When The Time Comes You Will Find It Easier To Ask Her Out.

Hope I Helped.

xx

Twitchamoo

ah well i guess i was asking too much for the PERFECT answer....lol

Kitty

You should never change yourself for anyone. So just give little hints like:
Smile at her when you see her
If she needs any help- help her!
just talk about things with her!
Try not to over-do anything as it might make you seem a bit weird!
Hopefully, you will gain confindence over time, and will have to problem asking her out.

As for your friends, find out what it is that is making them react this way, and try and sort something out between you and them to sort it out. Tell them how you feel and listen to what they have to say.

Hope this helped, and Good Luck!

KCLiVeS

Talk to her on msn - get to know her, its easier via msn as its not person to person. Then build up afriendship at school....

Twitchamoo

i really want her msn, but how do i ask her for it.

that would be too obvious.

Hayley

Bring Up The Conversation Of Msn!

Do You Talk To Her At School?

If You Do, Ask Her What She Did The Night Before And After She Has Told You, You Just Say Something Like 'Oh I Went On Msn Last Night..'

And Then Ask.. lol

xx

Twitchamoo

it would be a bit weird, seeing as i haven't got anyone in my classes msn.

im in a pickle.

Hayley

Weird.

Do You Not Have Like Any Close Friends In Your Class?

How Old Are You?

xx

Fizzy

I remember in Year 10 I did a COMPLETELY loser thing to start talking to this guy I liked in my French class. I had no confidence to talk to him even though we were seated next to each other, and he was in a popular crowd and was well respected and I knew he wouldn't like me...

One day I saw on a forwarded email his email address completely by chance! I didn't just add him to MSN though, I was completely retarded and decided to send him an anonymous Valentines e-card with an email address on it that I set up specially...

I then spoke to him on MSN anonymously on it for like a whole week and told him fake names and everything. Then I told him who I really was, and we just stopped talking on MSN and it just made things in class worse and v embarrassing!!

So yeh, don't do it that way....!

Twitchamoo

lol ok fizzy.

and im 14.

i don't have anybody in the class i would trust completely...

in fact, theres very few people i do trust.

Hayley

Surely You Have Got Like A Friend In You Class?

If Msn Is The Way You Want To Go About It, Ask Some Of Your Mates If They Have Her Addy.

Twitchamoo

i don't have any friends really.

Hayley

You Must Have Friends!

Do You Know Of Anyone Who You Talk To That Has Her Addy?

xx

Twitchamoo

the only person i know that might have her addy is her best friend.

i cant trust anyone i know to get her addy for me without speading rumors that i like her..

H-H

get sum of ur friends msns in ur class! wen ur on msn with them ask 4 all the msn's of the ppl in ur class. sum1 is bound to have her. if ur new to the whole askin ppl out kinda thing jus talk to her on msn and build it up - then ask if she wants to go to the cinema wit u or sumthin...
because u said u wer a shy person i recommend you don't try to ask her out in private - u'll obsess about it and it will come out very awkward.
It helps if you know them and are at ease talking to them before you ask them out. otherwise it will definately sound dodgy..

once ye have msn.. possibilities are endless.. jus get talkin to her then ask her out. or cut to the chase and ask one of ur friends to set u up..

add karma if that helped

Twitchamoo

H-H

Twitchamoo

I don't have any friends.

i trust no one with anything i value.

Peew4K

ask her for her email address and say that you want her addy because you are building a list on msn or something and if you really have no friends then try to listen to what the others are talkin about and join in and learn about their likes/dislikes and try to chat more.

H-H

Peew4K

lol nice point H-H!

Twitchamoo

i mean i don't have any close friends...

I do join in conversations and stuff.

i just don't trust anyone with anything i would consider to be valueable,

whether that be secret information, or material stuff.

also, i would just like to say now, lots of people think i am very funny ( or so they have said).

Peew4K

ok well I dunno your situation is straanngge with a capital S

Fizzy

Peew4K

ok then I'm only saying though.

chris358

where abouts in brum are u from?

csdonz

you could say your doing a survey of the most popular names/words/phrases in an msn email addess
eg. some boys have something like bobmanutd@.......
then ask everyone in ur class for their address to do ur survey but then add them to msn and make sure you give everyone in ur class the results or they will think u made it up

Fizzy

H-H

Twitchamoo

funny as in haha.

i am very friendly, i just don't tell anyone any secrets or anything!

H-H

well... there must be something going wrong if you don't have any close friends... look at yourself critically and try to spot what people like and dislike in you. then improve on yourself

Twitchamoo

i have said, people don't dislike me, they just don't like me either...

i thought the life rule was to be yourself anyway?

H-H

well there's a lot of contradictions for those kinda of rules... - there is also a be what you want to be rule. the "being yourself" rule tends to make people think they can lazy and slip into bad habits because they look at themselves and don't bother to change anything bad about themselves.

The "be what you want to be" one is better... arent we all supposed to do what we want? what's the point in existing if you don't do stuff you want to do!

Peew4K

hmm I would like to say be yourself be upfront with her ask her, even if her friends are there, it a respectful act I think.