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| Reaper |
I died, apparently.Ok, I left this school, and rumor spread that I was hit by a car and killed, one of the best friends I've ever had thinks I'm dead, and this happened years ago. I can't get in contact with her.What should I do to stop feeling rotten, because it kinda feels like my fault. = 
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| BEB |
It's not your fault at all.... Just try and get and contact with her! | ||||
| iliveinireland |
Its not ur fault
Look up her number in a phonebook online |
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| Joey |
Go To Visit Her One Day, Do They Have Facebook, bebo? | ||||
| Reaper |
^ I don't know where she lives, she moved house. I'm trying to get her phone number, and she doesn't have the internet, i think. No MSN, no face book, bebo, myspace etc. | ||||
| Amazing_swaps |
Well just forget about it! It really does't matter! | ||||
| minxybeca |
^ wtf? Yes it does, if it was his best mate. That post was a pretty pointless post.
Do you know anyone who knows her, maybe you could ask them to get her number or something. |
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| H-H |
yeh just don't do a big deathly voice when she picks up the phone 
that would be pretty freaky |
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| TheRealHustlers |
Wow.. What a weird situation. | ||||
| Peew4K |
by whatever means possible contact her this is bad! | ||||
| bauer094 |
how did the rumour get about. (did it nearly happen to you) | ||||
| Mario |
It's not that bad... 
You could possibly find out by contacting the school? If not do you know his/her parents becuase if you search 192.com you might find them. 
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| asdfghjkl |
Find her house, knock on the door, raise your hands and go "WOOOOO" Like a ghost. | ||||
| KieraN |
His Posts are ALWAYS pointless stupid Spamming Posts. He does it on every forum he's on. At least 3/4 of his posts on here are. |
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| mypassdontwork |
how you know she thinks your dead | ||||
| bobie509 |
go visit your old school for a day (people visit there old schools all the time)and your freind will see your not dead | ||||
| Peew4K |
No it will make you look like a proper D*** head!! | ||||
| bobie509 |
what would you prefer people thinking your dead or people thinking your a d*** head |
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| Peew4K |
people think I'm dead, I would rather me liked than hated... | ||||
| bobie509 |
but people will think your dead you cant like a dead person |
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| cuddlyewok |
Re: I died, apparently.To be honest, if it was one of your best friends, you would have stayed in contact.Also, as it allegedly happened "years" ago, I am sure that your "best" friend would have gotten over it. If they were thqat good a friend, and they heard that you were possibly dead, do you not think they would have tried to find a way to contact your parents, just to pay their repects (That is, if they were one of your best friends that you have ever had). to me, it just seems pointless to dwell on it, as: A) If you were such good friends, you would have kept in touch, and exchanged new contact details prior to her moving house. and B) according to you,
and C) If SHE was such a good friend, why has she not tried to get in touch with your folks, considering she has heard that you apparently died? |
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| rebecca1 |
try phoning the school and then an old neibour. Perhaps they can give you the answers you need. | ||||
| Reaper |
Re: I died, apparently.
I'm sorry, but that makes you sound like a total bastard, imo. Maybe, you never once thought, I wasn't aloud to use the phone back then, nor did I have MSN or a Mobile, nor an Email, so there was no way to get in contact with her. Also, when I left the school, it all happened very quickly, so I wouldn't have time anyway to get her contact details. To point B, yeah, maybe she has gotten over it, but what about me? Maybe I can't stand the thought of her thinking I'm dead, I NEVER said I was feeling bad because she was sad, I just don't like the idea of her thinking I'm dead, sad or not. At point c, refer to point a, she didn't have any means of contacting my parents, plus she thought I was dead, she probably thought that they were mourning. So that was possible the most stupid, unhelpful post I have EVER read. Thanks, 360_sWaPs, I'll have a look at that site! 
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| l0lzpl0x |
lol! i got hit by a car and everyone calls me a ghost and comes back to school to learn lol! | ||||
| cuddlyewok |
So, let me get this straight. You left school, without seeing her that day, and straight away after that school day, she moved house? Thus meaning that neither of you ever got the chance to see each other again?? If she was one of your "best" friends, surely you would have made time to say goodbye to each other, when the time came for her to move away. Can I ask, have you moved house since? Also, you bleated on about how you feel, wondering if she thinks you are dead or not (lets face facts, you are not really sure are you?) Why has it taken years for you to decide that you now feel guilty with these pointless thoughts? If it was something that has been preying on your mind, then you would have gotten in touch somehow - did you both not know the same friends? So, to refer back to your point of it being a stupid and unhelpful post, it was only in response to a pointless thread, created by yourself, as you wallow in self pity. You still have not explained how you managed to suddenly cease all communication, with a supposedly best friend, in one day. Let me phrase it a different way then, if the roles were reveresed, and you heard, years agao, that your "best" friend had died, would you not contact the parents, even if it is after a period of mourning? I know I would, if it were one of my best friends. This then leads on to the rumour. How did the rumour start? Also, what have YOU actually done so far, to try andget in contact with her? It does not make sense to have left it so long, to now decide you want to get in contact with her, to let her know you are alive and well. Maybe I do come across sounding a bit of a bastard, but then again, I am a realist, and lets face it, if you have done nothing to contact her over the years, you do not deserve her as a best friend (although she will have moved on, as should you, and will now have new sets of friends). |
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| Reaper |
Ok, the teachers were absoloutly rubbish, and I didn't kno I would leave, but it all went balls up, and I ended up leaving then.
I only found out when I posted that thread. I have tried absoloutly everything, I have even got friends to find her, but nothing, she's moved house. So don't be a complete apathetic bastard. Let me say this in a way you'll understand. I HAVE NO PHONE NUMBER, EMAIL ADRESS, ADDRESS, NOTHING TO GET INTO CONTACT, APART FROM 1 OTHER FRIEND, WHO HAS WORKED HER ASS OFF FOR ME. Honestly, get out of your own arse and actually think. |
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| iPodtouch |
Haha - Go Ancodi 
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| cuddlyewok |
Yes, I may be an apathetic bastard, but thats because your reasoning is futile.
You claim you only found out that your best friend thought you were dead on the day you made this thread? How did you find this out? How can anyone be anything but apathetic, when they do not have the whole story. Slowly, little extra bits of information are being teased from you, which slowly starts to fill the gaps. I am assuming that when you left school, on that day you did not think you would be leaving, neither she nor you moved house? If thats the case, this then leads me back to, if you were such good friends, why you did not keep in touch prior to one, or the other, moving. So, any chance we can have the full story, and then, possibly, offer advice? And, before you attempt to insult me, look back at what both you and I have posted. Now read them, and see, that in my posts, I have asked questions, which could do with answers. Also note, that my responses have been to the limited amount of information you have provided. So, to coin your phrase: get out of your own arse and actually think what information people are going to need, or ask for, to actually help in assisting you! |
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| Reaper |
ok, my friend, not the same person, told me the day i posted this thread, she knows because she went to the same school as me.
The friend who thinks I'm dead moved house a few months before i found out. Anything else? |
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| Fizzy |
Cuddlyewok...I've noticed you debating with people quite a few times now in threads recently. Some of the things you've said have been a little harsh, considering that the people you've been talking to have only been about 13 years old or so. | ||||
| cuddlyewok |
This may sound daft, but I am assuming that the person who told you, does not have the contact details of your friend either? When your friend moved house, did they move out of the same town/city as yourself? If not, it could well be worth going through the telephone book, especially if you know what her fathers name was. The other option, is trying something along the lines of "friends reunited". It may not yeild any results, but it has to be worth a shot. Some other options you could explore can be found Here
If I have come across as harsh, in my replies, then that was not the intention. Most of the time, I am trying to get either more information from the OP. As for the age of the other posters, surely it is immaterial. If they are posting either a question, or a supposed fact, then is it not wiser to be honest and up front with that person, rather than beating around the bush? If someone states a fact that is incorrect, then you try to correct them. Likewise, if they ask for advice, you try to get as much information regarding the problem or situation, in order to actually give advice. Sometimes, when you are not getting the information required, you have to be a bit blunt, in order to either help, or to correct them. |
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| Olivah |
^ That's not very sensitive...
So how did this all happen, did you leave the school without telling your friends, etc.? Don't fret about it. It's probably all a misunderstanding but hell, this is a weird situation!?
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| Hammers10 |
WEird situation:
my solution: 1.Contact your old school 2.find out what school your friend went to 3.contact the school she went to 4. get her phone number/address 5.contact her calmly and make sure you don't sound like a freak! if i have helped add karma/token/comment |
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| KCLiVeS |
Ever heard of the DataProtection Act 
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| Hammers10 |
Err yes i have.
and explain to your old school and they will probably recognize her because she will still be on there files. then go to her new schooland ask for her to be brought out of lessons to come to reception. it may not work but worth a try. I really hope with all my heart it works out fine Ancondi/Reaper |
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| montana |
Wow your dead what a bummer
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| Chrissie |
Do not bump topics older than 15 days...especially not with spam
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