Flashy™
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Oh my god my friends insane.Lolza. This isn't advice for me. It's more a friends problem but one of those situations you get involved in and feel like you should help out...I would of browsed the internet for some help but i couldn't find anything specific enough to this "issue" if you will. Plus Fizzy and a few other members on this forum i find are good at this kind of thing, Heh. 
Anyway this is going to be a pretty long story, so uhh...yeah, i'll try and keep it snappy.
So my best friend is seventeen. She works in this fast food place and has worked there for a year and a half, in October a new guy is recruited and he starts to work there, they begin dating. I am happy for them. I meet him and he's twenty seven (10 year age gap - no that i'm against them but still). I start to quiz her about him and she admits HE HAS NO VISA AND IS LIVING OFF AN EXPIRED STUDENT VISA AND IS £5,000 IN DEBT.  Haha. Ok that isn't my problem but i thought i'd add that in because i personally think that's all he's after.
Anyway her main problem is, last week. Tuesday infact she slept with him for the first time.
I ask her if she was safe...SHE WASN'T. We go to get the morning after pill on Friday (which isn't full proof anyway, right?). So i tell her "Make sure you safe next time yeah? I don't want to be your baby sitter anytime soon". She then turns round and tells me they've done it THREE times already this week unprotected
SHES A ******* NUT JOB! I suggusted those 3 year metal rods or the pill or SOMETHING. (He won't wear anything!). She tells me she isn't registered with a GP. She's never been to a doctor?! So where does she go exactly. She's asked for my help but she's being ridiculous and carrying on unsafe!
Plus when we got the morning after pill she was offered a FREE STD test and wouldn't take it!
And her parents don't know about him (cos their kind of racist and there's the age gap). To be honest we know nothing about this man!
What advice to you give to an idiot?
I know it's not my problem but she wants help and i can't really offer anything, i'm not as retarded as her to do something like this. I'm not ready to be best friends with Juno.
This sounds like something off TV but it's real! What the hell!
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KieraN
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Wowza.
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Br3ttie
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Wow.Thats messed up, My advice to her is "Pull yourself together girl!" You can get condoms and femidoms from your local health center even if youve never been before, its all anonymus,Does she know how dangerous it is having unprotected sex is,that tramp could have anything. id stay well away from him.
She needs to see what hes like, somehow maybe try to set him up or something, or as a test find a girl and get her to txt him and see if he texts back, if he does show your freind and hopefully shell come to her senses
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KCLiVeS
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Re: Oh my god my friends insane. | Flashy™ wrote: | Lolza. This isn't advice for me. It's more a friends problem but one of those situations you get involved in and feel like you should help out...I would of browsed the internet for some help but i couldn't find anything specific enough to this "issue" if you will. Plus Fizzy and a few other members on this forum i find are good at this kind of thing, Heh.
Anyway this is going to be a pretty long story, so uhh...yeah, i'll try and keep it snappy.
So my best friend is seventeen. She works in this fast food place and has worked there for a year and a half, in October a new guy is recruited and he starts to work there, they begin dating. I am happy for them. I meet him and he's twenty seven (10 year age gap - no that i'm against them but still). I start to quiz her about him and she admits HE HAS NO VISA AND IS LIVING OFF AN EXPIRED STUDENT VISA AND IS £5,000 IN DEBT. Haha. Ok that isn't my problem but i thought i'd add that in because i personally think that's all he's after.
Anyway her main problem is, last week. Tuesday infact she slept with him for the first time.
I ask her if she was safe...SHE WASN'T. We go to get the morning after pill on Friday (which isn't full proof anyway, right?). So i tell her "Make sure you safe next time yeah? I don't want to be your baby sitter anytime soon". She then turns round and tells me they've done it THREE times already this week unprotected
SHES A ******* NUT JOB! I suggusted those 3 year metal rods or the pill or SOMETHING. (He won't wear anything!). She tells me she isn't registered with a GP. She's never been to a doctor?! So where does she go exactly. She's asked for my help but she's being ridiculous and carrying on unsafe!
Plus when we got the morning after pill she was offered a FREE STD test and wouldn't take it!
And her parents don't know about him (cos their kind of racist and there's the age gap). To be honest we know nothing about this man!
What advice to you give to an idiot?
I know it's not my problem but she wants help and i can't really offer anything, i'm not as retarded as her to do something like this. I'm not ready to be best friends with Juno.
This sounds like something off TV but it's real! What the hell! |
All she needs to do is use a condom! Find some info on STI's on the internet and try and open her eyes to the danngers.
If you're seriously worried about her you could always report him to the local authorities who would most likely deport him?
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ryberto
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use a femidom its a female condom then he dont have to use owt god kids these days wot do they teach them?
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Flashy™
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Haha. Pretty screwed.
I've tried condom advice, he will not wear one simple as and she doesn't seem to be bothered that he won't either. I'll sugguest femidoms when i see her later but if i remember correctly she won't actually wear tampons so i'm thinking it's unlikely she'll wear one of those. 
When i spoke to her last night i asked "What if you end up with a miniture" and she pretty much gave off this vibe of "Oh well i'll have an abortion" like a light decision, simple as thing.
I don't want to ring the authorities either, heh. They'll hate me!
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Olivah
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I know you don't want to, but you should call the authorities.
Do it anonymously if you have to.
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ferret47
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Sounds quite bad. It's her choice at the end of the day but let her know how you feel and how silly you think she's being. It will turn out bad at the end of the day. An abortion isn't a light decision and if he's had unprotected with her has he done it before and who with. Get her to be checked out as if she has got anything then in early stages it is easier and more likely to be treatable. Quite a few sti's don't show any symptoms either and are very horrible. As for him he sounds dodgy and not someone to be with. There are plenty of others around in alot better situation. Hope's she is alright and this ends soon.
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Hammers10
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oUCH!
not cool!
ok i have never come across anything like this!!!!
what to do:
Get a gun and shoot him.
what to really do:
Tell her parents, not a pretty job i know, but someone has to do it.
or call the authorities.
this is noit good and could do her more harm than she realises.
and also in my mind abortion is like murder, effectively killng someone before they're even alive.
tell her that is murderous and scare her out of it.
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KCLiVeS
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Seriously call the authorities.
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puddleduckie
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Wow, she's screwed... I wouldn't really know how to help 0.o
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Flashy™
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Rofl. I tried to help her but she's totally still at it. So i just warned her and i'll let her get on with it. Then laugh when it's time to tell her mother.
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deals_on_wheels
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i mean im not an expert on this but tell her about the dangers i mean like she dun even know he got std's you must do something if you want to still have a friend because having an abortion aint as easy as she thinks most prob i wouldnt know though but you must do something about it
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